This site is devoted to enlightening oneself regarding the economy, the markets and investment options to strengthen one’s financial well being. That being said, occasionally I think a meaningful site should share other ways to improve one’s life to make it the absolute best it can possibly be – and this is one such article. Read it, reflect on it, implement its words of wisdom and pass it on to your contact list (and tape it on your refrigerator as a constant reminder). It deserves to be shared!
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Edited excerpts from the original article entitled 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy are as follows:[Below] is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. Ready? Here we go:
1. Give up your need to always be right
There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it.
Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” (Wayne Dyer). What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?
2. Give up your need for control
Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc.
Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better that will make you feel...
3. Give up on blame
Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel.
Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk
Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset?
Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that…
5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible
From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
6. Give up complaining
Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed.
Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
7. Give up the luxury of criticism
Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you.
We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.
8. Give up your need to impress others
Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. Give up your resistance to change
Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it...
10. Give up labels
Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open.
“The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” (Wayne Dyer)
11. Give up on your fears
Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” (Franklin D. Roosevelt)
12. Give up your excuses
A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real. Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them.
13. Give up the past
I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have.
The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.
14. Give up attachment
This is a concept that…is hard to grasp…but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at it with time and practice.
The moment you detach yourself from all things you will become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying – a state beyond words. That doesn’t mean you give up your love for them because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another. Attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and selfless Where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist.
15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations
Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them.
They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.
You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.
We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering and, instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy, we cling on to them. Not anymore.
Starting today give up on all those things that no longer serve you, and you will embrace change.
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